Breaking the judgement mold

By Tami Bonnell, CEO, EXIT Realty Corp. International

Everyone was born with special gifts, and everyone has special and unique purposes for being here. And yet, for some reason, we lump ourselves and others into a preconceived mold. When someone does or says something that falls outside of that mold, it’s so easy to judge them for it. The interesting thing is, it doesn’t matter whether we’re in a good or bad frame of mind; we judge the good and we judge the bad.  It seems we’re constantly judging ourselves or somebody else.

Shame researcher and author, Brené Brown, writes, “Research tells us that we judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people’s choices. If I feel good about my body, I don’t go around making fun of other people’s weight or appearance. We’re hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.”

We make assumptions. Let’s say someone is late for a meeting and they rush in all harried and dishevelled. We might pride ourselves on our punctuality so our first thought might be how inconsiderate they are and how they should manage their time better.  But we may not know they’re taking care of an ill parent and working two jobs to stay afloat.  Maybe they’re suffering from clinical depression and simply getting out of bed was a major victory.  We judge things we know nothing about.

We all do it from time to time.  I’m no different than you. Perhaps if we wore an elastic band on our wrist and snapped it every time we made a judgment (good or bad and of ourselves or others) it would help us to be more aware of how often we judge, and awareness is the first step towards change.

 

Get in Touch

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

Related Articles

EXIT Realty Reaches $6 Million Paid to Administrative Professionals

The heartbeat of a successful real estate office is its administrative professional staff.  They are the plate-spinners and the glue that holds the operation...

Steve Morris: Reflections on EXIT’s 25th Year

By Steve Morris, Founder and Chairman, EXIT Realty Corp. International I’ve been in real estate 45 years this year.  In my early days as a...

50 Years in Real Estate and Never “Worked” a Day in His Career

By Melanie Robitaille, Sr. Staff Writer & Graphic Designer EXIT Realty CK Elite Broker/Owner, Kirk Groombridge, is a third-generation real estate professional who recently teamed...

Latest Posts

EXIT Realty Elite and the Spirit of EXIT Bring Some Music Back to Music City

Kel Williams, Franchisee of EXIT Realty Elite in Nashville, TN and his team of real estate professionals, with the help of Tif and Lee...

EXIT Landmark Realty and the Spirit of EXIT Partner to Help Those in Need in Southern Maryland

The team at EXIT Landmark Realty partnered with Lifestyles, Inc., a local non-profit committed to serving Southern Maryland, to raise funds to support the...

EXIT Realty Black Hills and the Spirit of EXIT Help with Hearts for Habitat Televised Event

Michael Alley, Broker Owner of EXIT Realty Black Hills in Rapid City, SD and his team of real estate professionals recently supported  Black Hills...

EXIT Permian Basin Realty and the Spirit of EXIT Provide Hope of Homeownership

Joe Garcia, Franchisee of EXIT Permian Basin Realty located in Odessa, TX, and his team of real estate professionals, raised money to support Midland...

EXIT Realty Reaches $6 Million Paid to Administrative Professionals

The heartbeat of a successful real estate office is its administrative professional staff.  They are the plate-spinners and the glue that holds the operation...