By Angel Tucker, EXIT Realty MIND-SET Trainer
On August 16, 2019 my husband was having his retirement ceremony as he prepared to retire from the United States Air Force. As a result of the many people who wanted to celebrate this special occasion with us, we had a house full of people and many more at hotels in the area. Needless to say, this was a stressful situation for me when it came to preparing for everyone’s arrival plus planning a party and a huge group kayaking event!
I had to stop and remind myself several times what was REALLY important. It is easy for us to get overwhelmed with self-imposed stress on things that ultimately really don’t matter. The reality is that no one who was visiting would be closely inspecting the bathrooms or anywhere else, for that matter! They were there to celebrate, so keeping myself in check was a tremendous help.
Here are examples of how each of the personality types can get stressed and what you can do about it:
“D” types – Once you decide how you want something to be done, you get upset if it doesn’t go that way. Remember not to make a big deal out of everything. Choose your battles! Ask yourself, “Is it really going to matter in 10 years?” If not, let it go!
“I” types – You get so busy having fun that you let those tasks pile up! Remember to do at least a few short-term tasks each day, then give yourself a little reward for getting things done! Also, set an alarm on your phone/watch to remind yourself what time you need to leave for a meeting or an appointment so you’re not late.
“S” types – You get so caught up in other people’s lives and want to “fix” everything for them. Remember, it is not your job to make the world a better place for EVERYONE! Remember that by fixing everyone’s problems for them, you can actually take away the power from them to think for themselves. You are actually helping by NOT always helping! Remember, you need to save some time for yourself.
“C” types – Perfection isn’t necessary all the time, but you certainly get frazzled when things aren’t exactly right! The advice I gave to the “D” types can apply to you as well! Is it really going to matter in 10 years if it wasn’t perfect? Most of the time “good enough” is good enough, so choose your battles wisely. Studies show that C types actually die an average of seven years earlier than any other personality types because of your unreasonably high expectations and the health challenges these can cause, so cut yourself (and others) some slack!
I hope you found this helpful! Remember you can always reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.